Border Security
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Border Security

One psychological term that gets thrown around a lot is “boundaries.” Everyone seems to agree that it’s good to have clear boundaries, and a problem if you don’t, but what does that even mean? 

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Measure Twice, Cut Once
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Measure Twice, Cut Once

Sometimes, you can avoid a world of trouble by just slowing down and taking a more accurate measure of things. It can be hard to do if you tend to react in the moment, but it’s a habit worth acquiring.

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Polymonogamy
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Polymonogamy

People talk a lot about personal growth--so much so that it’s become a cliché. But why don’t people talk about relational growth?

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Rapid Response
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Rapid Response

When something unexpected or uncomfortable disrupts our lives, there are a couple of ways we can behave: we can either react or respond.

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Occam’s Hatchet
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Occam’s Hatchet

When our wish for the certainty of a simple answer overrides our need to understand the messy truth, Occam's Razor becomes a hatchet, and the cut is neither clean nor precise.

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What—Me Worry?
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

What—Me Worry?

Sometimes I lay awake at night, worrying for hours about things that might happen, or about things that already did. I try to be all Buddhist about it and stop grasping at things I can’t change, but it’s hard to be enlightened when you can’t sleep and you’re grinding your teeth and your monkey-mind is scampering around in your skull at 100 MPH.

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Resolution Confusion
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Resolution Confusion

During the glow of the holidays, they seemed like such laudable, and maybe even reachable, goals. But now, in the harsh light of our extended holiday hangovers, they don’t look so bright and shiny anymore.

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HELP!
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

HELP!

As bad as people are at giving advice, we’re just as bad at asking for it and accepting it.

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Reading Tea Leaves
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Reading Tea Leaves

There was once a man who sought advice and counsel from a great teacher.

“You seem to be suffering,” said the teacher. “Come, sit, and tell me what I can do to help.”

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Evil Twins
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Evil Twins

Our emotions are triggered by our experiences, but they are also molded by our assumptions, our biases and our conclusions.

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The Case for Navel Gazing
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

The Case for Navel Gazing

A little navel gazing can help, especially if you do it with someone who’s seen their share of innies and outies in their time.

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Ripples
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Ripples

When a loved one passes on from this life, we go through a passage of a different kind. They leave behind a void, and we have to figure out how to fill it.

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Harvest Time
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Harvest Time

My strongest memories of those cold, bright autumn days are the smell of burning leaves and the last, lingering warmth of Indian summer, before the long New England winter took hold.

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Character Reference
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Character Reference

The other day, a friend of mine said: “People can surprise you, but they never break character.” I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. He may well be right, but it depends on what you mean by character.

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Tell Me a Story
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Tell Me a Story

The reason this structure keeps coming up is that it helps us satisfy one of our own deepest longings: the longing for meaning.

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Shedding
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

Shedding

Our culture is really big on accumulating. In almost every arena, acquiring more seems to be the stated point of the game. More money, more status, more degrees, more possessions, more likes, more clicks.

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The Secret Life of Ideas
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

The Secret Life of Ideas

Ideas are like living beings. They are born, and they develop, and they either bear fruit or die. At each stage of their existence, they need different conditions to grow and thrive, and those conditions are provided in the changing environment of our minds.

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The Availability of Joy
Jeff Lee Jeff Lee

The Availability of Joy

There’s a Norwegian man named Aleksander Gamme who’s kind of a professional adventurer. Back in 2012, he decided to ski to the South Pole by himself, and he filmed some of his journey on a GoPro camera.

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